Clowning Preference: In Your Face or Behind Your Back?

I was in the cafeteria line this week when the kitchen staff was clowning one of the other employees that came through the serving line about her roller set on her naturally kinky hair. They told her that her husband must have not seen her before she left out the house. She should get his approval next time. I must admit she just smiled and kept her composure and kept it moving. I tried to change the subject by asking for selection recommendations from the serving line, but in the back of my head, I wondered was it better to be clowned in front of her face or behind her back?

Her hair was neat despite the ultra coily texture. I felt like I should have addressed the kitchen staff and their ignorance, but why bother? I decided that it was not worth it considering they prepare the food.  Sometimes you have to choose your battles and just believe . . . . "Girlz With Kinks Still Get Winks!"

Natural Hair Highlight: Lupita Nyong'o

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Lupita Nyong'o is a Yale School of Drama graduate and now a SAG Award winner 2014 for her role as "Patsy" in the movie "Twelve Years a Slave."

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Photo credit:  www.batchplease.com

I wanted to highlight her because men are loving her natural hair and her natural beauty.  No wigs, No extensions, No straight hair.  I sincerely hope that she does not start experimenting with the artificial hair enhancements, because we need more Sistahs in Hollywood like her to represent the beauty of tightly coiled hair.

Don't get me wrong, if she is stunning with "a short tapered afro,"  then she undoubtedly has unlimited beauty.

I speak for all the "afro puff" ladies with a headband who occasionally get a full weave only get one compliment after the next.  Even some of my clients that come in for a blow-out from wearing their twist-outs are amazed at how their co-workers go crazy over their elongated, straight hair.

All of these ladies, ask the same question, what does society really think about them when they wear their God given hair texture?

I think society tolerates this natural hair movement that Black women are going through.

I wore my stocking cap wig last week for a change.  I wanted to have long, straight European hair.  Oh my God,  the compliments . . . "Your hair looks amazing."  "I love your hair."  "I love the new look."
One compliment after the next.

We love compliments right?  But somehow it just seems so unnerving to think that "borrowed hair" is more accepted than "one's own hair."

So Lupita, please do not "borrow" anyone else's hair any time soon!  We need to get society's eyes to see a new normal, a new beauty.  We need them to see past the hair.

Congratulations on your nominations and wins!

Importance of finding the right hairstyle

Amazingly, I have received the attention of more male prospects in one week with this hairstyle than in one whole year. Even the compliments from female strangers as well as regular clientele have just been on going. Everyone is saying the hair is very becoming on you. "I love your hair." "You have great hair."

Life has been so much easier. People are more friendly. They treat you nicer.

I just sit back and laugh a little because my IQ and personality has not changed, but I seem more accepted by society with this look. It is just amazing to me. I have the same beautiful skin and beautiful smile. However, for $40 and some style tuning, I have a weatherproof, beautiful hairstyle. This is better than sliced bread! LOL!

It makes me realize that our Blacks with kinkier hair that are not conforming to a European well groomed look will always have a rough time being accepted into society.

So to rise about the lower income bracket, one has to fix the hair, teeth, and skin first. Maintaining a smaller frame weight-wise is important too, but it is secondary to the whole facial image.

Celebrity Star Jones is a perfect example. I felt that Star Jones was one of the most beautiful plus size women on television prior to her weight loss. I was happy that she was happy about the weight loss, but the truth be told, I felt that she lost a lot of her beauty with the weight loss. The loss of beauty could have been resulted from the weight loss method that was used. It could be that natural aging took over or even stress, but I feel the face of the heavier Star Jones was much more beautiful than the skinnier Star Jones.

In a nutshell, with the advances of wigs and the unpredictable weather, paying a wig expert to assist with wig selection at your price point may be an invaluable investment. When you land a better job with your new look, just keep making improvements.

On a separate note, for those who prefer to "wear their own hair" - listen: If your hair is extremely kinky and overcurly by nature, you will not be able to achieve and maintain this level of straightness, body, and thickness all day long, every day. That is why stage plays are showcasing more wigs on their actors.

Also, I was watching the movie "The Devil Wears Prada" on yesterday. It was the first time that I noticed that Meryl Streep was actually wearing a "white haired" lace front wig cut into a bob style. I was floored.

Always, Always take care of your own real hair, but for glamour and image consistency - consider "wigging out!"